Shafin wadood
Shafinllb@outlook.com
We live in a world that’s ripe for criticism. From family criticism to social media to expert opinion-seekers it’s really easy to find anyone with an opinion and want to share it. While some criticism is kind of constructive and helpful, too much negativity can be overwhelming and even harmful.
Criticism can impact us in many different ways. First of all, constant criticism can cause us to doubt our own abilities and make self-doubt. The fear of being criticized also can keep us from taking risks and pursuing our dreams. Accepting others expectations for our behavior and goals can cause anxiety and stress. Criticism also can lead to relationship difficulties and rifts in people and family.
Social media can be an outlet for criticism and negative thoughts. Even family members which are closest to us can sometimes be critical and judgmental. We can also have issues with workplace criticism. It can come from people we don’t know well.
So how can we protect ourselves from the negative effect of criticism? Firstly always learn to accept criticism without taking it personally. Surround yourself with positive people who can give you constructive criticism. Always take care of your physical, emotional and mental condition. Set boundaries with everyone and Learn to turn down things that is unwarranted or unjustified.
I’m not sure if it is easy to cope with criticism but then there are some things that you can do. If you can think of a way forward, you can consider using criticism to learn and grow. Surround yourself with people who uplift you and if one of them is criticising youin a healthy way you should always accept it. It’s not criticism it is guidance for you, as they want youto grow and improve. Always do celebrate your good qualities and achievement. If you get into a vicious circle of critics, then it will be only very difficult to move forward.
The world seems to throw around words of criticism on a daily basis, but that doesn’t mean we should let them define yourself. We can build a niceskin over the years, keep our focus on positive feedback, and practice self-care, to help protect ourselves from the negative effects of criticism. We’re not defined by our mistakes. We are whole enough that we can learn and grow from them.
(Writer is an llb graduate based in Islamabad)
